2013 is almost ending :), Hope you’ve started making plans on how to make 2014 successful, you should :). I want to talk of something interesting today and, i know that you might disagree with me on this one but, I’m certain of everything i will be saying here today. I’m sure the headline has already told you what this post is about. This is something I’ve wanted to talk about here before but, I always forget until now so, let’s get to the point without wasting much time.
I always see people that tries to help everyone or to impress everyone they see but in my own opinion, it will only be a waste of time and efforts because, no matter how you try, there are still people out there that do not deserve your help so, my point is to always focus on those that really require your assistance and keep helping them.
I know for sure that it’s always good to help as many people as you can after all, there is a saying that….
You will get whatever you want in life if you can help enough other people get what they want.
That is absolutely correct and I also agree with it but yet, you can never help everyone I mean, it’s impossible whether you agree with me or not.
Someone might think that he needs your help but in actual sense, he does not need it because, whenever I see someone that needs my help, I will certainly know via their actions.
So Theodore, How Do You Know When Someone Really Needs Your Help?
I’m happy you asked that question. There are so many ways through which you will know if the person you want to help deserves it or not. And, it’s always good to help people that really need it because, time is our greatest asset so, instead of wasting it unnecessarily, it’s better to use it on something that is worthwhile.
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Sign #1. Some time ago, I sent out an email to my list telling them that I will like to help them create their first blog free of charge but, the only investment they will make is to register a domain and host it which is normal. I didn’t even made it compulsory that they must use my affiliate link to register and host the domain but, I told them to use any company they want that, all I want is their cpanel login.
After sending this email, a lot of them were thanking me for that, some even requested for my own hosting affiliate link. I later created the blog for the people that complied but, one email got me angry.
This guy replied me saying that:
I thought that when you want to help someone free of charge, he does not have to spend anything on that regard, you will just do everything for him free of charge.
So, why then are you asking us to pay for the domain registration and hosting when you’re there claiming that you want to help us free of charge? Is that right? I think I will have to opt out of your list because, I hate dishonest people.
Please, it’s better to be sincere with yourself instead of claiming to do what you cannot do.
To be honest with you, I didn’t know what to tell him after reading his email because, I made everything clear on the broadcast I sent them of which every other person understood me except him. I was sad for sometime because, I can’t respond to his email for the fact that he unsubscribed.
But, I later told myself that, he does not deserve my help or any other persons out there. So tell me, how can you possibly help such a person?
Sign #2. Another way you can detect someone that does not deserve your help is, when someone reached out to you to help him with something on his blog.
You know, it’s always good to teach a friend how to fish instead of giving him fish all the time so, the best thing you can do for that person is to teach him how to solve the problem he is facing so that he will be able to handle it on his own next time.
But, some people will want you to do everything for them. Remember, they’re not paying you though; the money is not the issue here anyway. But, assuming they will pay for your time then, you will know it’s a business.
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But the issue is that, when you try to teach them how to handle the situation on their own either by giving them a link to an article or a video on how to remedy it, they will tell you that they don’t have the time to read or watch it, asking you to just do it for them.
Isn’t that the climax of laziness? The issue here is that, even if you do it for them the first time, they will certainly come back again thereby wasting your time unnecessarily. So tell me, do such people really need your help? I don’t know about you but, my answer is no.
Sign #3. I was in an examination hall last time and, one guy that were sitting beside me asked for my assistance to answer some of the questions. I opened my answer script for him to copy but, he complained that he is not seeing what I wrote very clearly, I now started dictating the answers to him but, he again complained that he cannot spell everything I’m calling. Hahaha
Guess what he said…… That I should either give him my own answer script, take his own and write for him or, I should be spelling the answers for him word by word. What will you do if you were on my shoes? For me, I bluntly refused. It’s not as if I cannot do that for him but, I might end up implicating myself.
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So my dear, the point is to always try and help those you think that really need your help, you will know by their words and action because, helping those that does not need it will be a waste of time and, you might end up putting yourself in trouble too.
That’s my own say but, I will like to know what you think about this. Is it good to always help everyone out there whether they need it or not? Have you ever met someone like the people I mentioned above? Please tell me via the comment section.
I will also be happy if you can help me and share this with your friends out there so they can also know the truth. God bless you
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