I really had lots of fun on my 25th birthday last week Wednesday and, I want to thank all of you for your awesome wishes, I couldn’t have done it without your supports. The images below are some of the ones I captured while the celebration was going on so, just take a look:).
In case you don’t know, I’m 25 years old now and as you can see, I’m no longer a kid, I’m really getting old:) and, Its time I start being more serious because, time is not on my side. Throughout these 25 years that I’ve been in this world, I’ve learnt so many things; I’ve also met so many wonderful as well as awkward people. Life is full of experiences you know.
The more we’re growing up, the more we’re travelling to places, the more we’re meeting and making more friends, the more we’re learning. A friend once told me that life is a collage and that, we should always learn. This is so true because, no matter what you think you know today, the more you go out, the more you learn, and the more you discover that you know nothing.
On this post, I want to share with you the top 17 lessons I’ve learnt so far, hope you will also learn from them… Let’s get on it.
Lesson #1: You Need a Mentor or a Coach. This is one of the things that will hugely add to the success of your business. If you really want to be so awesome at anything, the first step should be to go seek for the assistance of someone who has done it successfully before.
I know that most of us cannot squeeze out 5k or 10k for a coaching program, especially when we’re just starting out. There are a lot of good mentors / coaches as well as information out there and you don’t necessarily need one-on-one coaching.
However, finding the right coach or mentor can save you many months, if not years, off the learning curve. Don’t be afraid to do your research and ask questions before investing your hard-earned money.
Just find a mentor or a coach if you want to radically shrink your learning curve. You don’t necessarily need to have a personal mentor, there are plenty of books, audio courses, master mind groups, etc. that you have access to. Find a couple of mentors and learn from them.
Lesson # 2: If You Are Feeling Down or Feel Like quitting……Then go to your local book store (or Amazon) and read THE POWER OF POSSITVE THINKING by Norman Vincent Peale. It’s a bunch of true short stories of people who overcame great odds. I’ve read a lot of books, but I read this particular book many years ago and, I still read it from time to time so, it has a special place for me in my heart.
Read one story per day until you finish the book. I guarantee you, your mindset will change and your batteries will be recharged:).
Lesson # 3: Fear, uncertainty, and procrastination. I call these the ” 3 big dream destroyers and the 3 big assassins of productivity” because everyone experiences them. I want you to realize that for 99.9% of people who start a business, at some point they are going to experience one of these (sometimes all three).
Therefore, you need to realize you’re not alone. I almost quit a couple times during my first few months online and I am so glad that I didn’t. If you are ever in doubt in what you should be doing always ask yourself this question:
“What’s the ONE thing that I can do today that will add to the success of my life or business?”
It could be publishing a new post.
It could be reading a personal development/motivational book.
It could be placing Facebook and Twitter buttons on your blogs home page.
It could be performing some keyword research
It could be writing and uploading a new e-book to a marketplace like Clickbank, Kindle store, e-junkie, etc.
It could be responding to your emails
It could be sending out an email campaign to your list
It could be finding ONE blog who will take your content as a “guest author”
It could be interacting and commenting on other peoples blog posts
It could be reading some stories on the newspaper
The lists goes on and on so, stop lazing about and get to work now my blossom friend?.
Lesson # 4: The best way to tell if a market is profitable is this:
1. Does It has advertising dollars? You can find out about this by conducting some research either on the search engines and by using keyword research tools to see what advertisers are paying for the keyword you wanna target.
2. If you head over to market places like Amazon, Clickbank, Commission Junction, CPA networks, you’ll find hundreds of markets, niches, and sub-niches.
What’s not simple is monetizing that market. Virtually everyone knows that markets like weight loss, dating, wedding planning, dog training, health issues, etc. are extremely profitable.
Yet people view them as highly competitive and saturated. Yet a new weight loss millionaire is created every single day. I’m not saying that if you’re a newbie that your first niche should be highly competitive, but I’m also not saying you should overlook it either.
Lesson # 5: The people you spend time with will determine your future. Studies started by the great Dale Carnegie and many others after him have proven that who you habitually spend your time with affects how you think and act.
It was very difficult for me to break up with some of my friends back then and to spend less time with certain friends, but I had to surround myself with positive, like-minded entrepreneurs who got it. Once I was able to do that, it became much, much easier to earn money.
Some people won’t understand why you might want to spend more time on your “business” than hang out with them. It’s not personal, usually, you just need to communicate to them that you have a dream and that you’re going to go for it.
You need to stay focused by focusing on your goals daily. With all the distractions out there it’s a miracle that people are able to stay focused. You’ve got TV, satellite or cable TV, video games, movie theatres, comedy clubs, plays, family, friends, holidays, new products, new seminars, social media sites etc.
Remember, there are new products coming out every single hour trying to convince you that you need their product or service for you business. Before you buy anything ask yourself honestly, “does my business really need this to grow?”
Lesson # 6: Treat your business like it’s a real business not a hobby. If I had understood this the first time I started, I would have been far better than I am right now. I treated mine like a hobby because I spent more time procrastinating and reading every post online than actually doing the things that would benefit my business.
Then after reading one of Steve Scotts kindle books “Internet Lifestyle Productivity” I learnt to set aside set times for my business. I also learnt to think strategically and write my thoughts down on a white board.
From there I was able to ascertain what daily tasks I needed to do. If I put a complete date by a task, I would go out of my way to meet that deadline. That really helped my businesses grow. Although, there are some times when many other things like my studies, power outage, etc do stand on my way towards meeting those goals.
Lesson # 7: Your 5 predominant habits will predict your future. So take some time and write them down. If any of them have anything to do with habitual complaining, blaming others, drugs, too much partying, spending too much money, or being negative in any way, then you already know what you need to change.
Your friends, family, and even your significant other might not understand what you are doing. That’s okay, as long as they don’t inhibit your progress. Just give them some time and, you will prove to them what you’re doing.
Lesson # 8: It is very difficult to build a multi-million dollar business on your own. You should try and outsource as soon as you can afford it. It will be very easier and better for you to focus on the main core of your business while allowing your VA’s do the other menial works especially the ones you’re not very good at.
I have 2 niche sites so far and, I know I can’t maintain the writing of their contents so; I have someone doing that for me. I also plan on outsourcing more works too as soon as I can afford it like building backlinks and the rest of them.
Lesson # 9: Never try to be someone you’re not. Whether you believe it or not, you have some awesome things about you. Find out what those things are and use them to find the Unique Selling Proposition for your business. And remember, mediocrity abounds on the internet, you can usually compete on value and service.
Try as much as you can to be you and not someone else, you must realize that you’re indeed uniquely made and therefore, no one else can be you. It’s always not necessary to try and impress someone by being a fake so, just be the best of who you are.
Lesson # 10: Trust no one. You need to trust no one in the beginning, but once someone earns your trust you better hold onto them. But the point I’m making here is that, people will need to earn your trust before you can award it them.
Lesson # 11: Take care of your customers and the competition will take care of itself. This might sound somehow strange but, that’s the truth. Yes, the competition out there is very huge but, once you treat your customers well and give them what they want then, you don’t need to worry about the competition any more.
Lesson # 12: Hard work really pays. I know you’ve heard this many times even here on TBC because, I constantly mention it. I therefore want to remind you about it again and again so that you will put more efforts and start working now for a better tomorrow. If you know the position you want to be in tomorrow, now is the time to start working for it.
Lesson # 13: Rome was not built in a day. This is another popular saying which my awesome friend Harleena Singh mentioned in one of her comments here and, I agree with that. What this simply means is that you shouldn’t expect overnight success.
It takes time and lots of tireless efforts to achieve anything good in life therefore, even if you’re not yet seeing your desired result like most of us, just be patient and continue working because, you will surely breakthrough sooner or later.
Lesson # 14: A man’s talent market ways for him. As stated in the book of Proverbs 18:16, A MAN’S TALENT MAKETH WAYS FOR HIM. This is so true and, I know you must have heard about this before too.
Its time you start building up your skills, start developing new skills. As a blogger or an internet entrepreneur, there are many skills that you might want to build more for the benefits of your business and to also upgrade your profile.
You can work more on your coding skills, on your SEO skills, on your writing skills and many more. Even apart from the online skills I mentioned here, you should also develop your leadership skills and many more.
The skills you built can open doors for you; it can open up many opportunities that can transfigurate your life for the best. Ask yourself, what other skill do I need to acquire for the success of my business and for the benefits of the people around me? This will help you to know where and where to concentrate more on.
Lesson # 15: Embrace God. Yes, I can’t finish this post without acknowledging him. If I start telling you what he has done for me, you will certainly be amazed. I would have been a school drop-out today because of an issue I had in school some time ago in fact, I was expelled but God in his infinite mercy, fought the battle for me and, I and other people that was affected was called back.
The holy book made it clear in the book of (Philippians 4:13) that “I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me.” So, you need not be afraid of anything believing in that saying.
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. But with sound self-confidence you can succeed. A sense of inferiority and inadequacy interferes with the attainment of your hopes, but self-confidence leads to self-realization and successful achievement.
You must realize that he is the alpha and omega and with him, everything is possible.
Lesson # 16: If you want to succeed in life, double your failure rate. Believe me or not, the more you try and failed at something, the better you will become at it. Therefore, don’t be afraid of taking risks, don’t be afraid of failing because, that you failed does not necessarily mean that you’re a failure, it simply means that you’ve not succeeded yet and therefore, you will have to try again.
Realize that failure is often times, success in disguise. What have you been afraid of doing before? You need to get out there right now and get to it, attack it and you will be happy at the end.
My friend once told me that if I want to feel fabulous, that I should do those things I’ve been longing to do and, I’m also telling you that right now, go and do that which you’ve been longing to do right now and, you will definitely feel fabulous :).
Lesson # 17: No one can make you inferior without your permission. Do you agree with me or not? This lesson is very similar to lesson # 3 above. I just want to emphasize more on it. Lack of self-confidence apparently is one of the great problems besetting people today.
In a university, a survey was made of six hundred students in psychology courses. The students were asked to state their most difficult personal problem. 75% listed lack of confidence. It can safely be assumed that the same large proportion is true of the population generally.
Everywhere you encounter people who are inwardly afraid, who shrink from life, who suffer from a deep sense of inadequacy and insecurity, who doubt their own powers. Deep within themselves they mistrust their ability to meet responsibilities or to grasp opportunities. Always they are beset by the vague and sinister fear that something is not going to be quite right.
They do not believe that they have it in them to be what they want to be, and so they try to make themselves content with something less than that of which they are capable. Thousands upon thousands go crawling through life on their hands and knees, defeated and afraid. And in most cases such frustration of power is unnecessary.
We build up the feeling of insecurity or security by how we think. If in our thoughts we constantly fix attention upon sinister expectations of dire events that might happen, the result will be constantly to feel insecure. And what is even more serious is the tendency to create, by the power of thought, the very condition we fear. (Cited from the power of positive thinking).
Lesson # 18: Know when you’re squandering time. This is one problem with many people; they don’t know the big difference between activity and achievement. I’ve written a post about this here before but, I will like to touch on it again.
It is very imperative to know when you’re squandering your time in the name of being productive, this will certainly add to the growth of your business.
Lesson #19: Learn to Schedule Sometimes. Do you schedule at all? If not then, you really have to start scheduling blog posts now because, automation is always very good. I remembered sometime ago when i was very sick and away from my blog, my traffic went down and that was because i was unable to update it.
You never can tell what happens tomorrow, apart from being sick, you might also become so busy that it will be difficult to work on your sites but, if you already have some posts scheduled for a set time, it will be very easy for you because your blog will still be functioning even in your absence.
There you have it all and, I hope and believe that you’ve learnt one or two things from this post. I just don’t want all you learnt today to be in vain, you need to start working on yourself now for a better tomorrow.
Thanks for reading this long and, thanks for all your wonderful prayers and wishes to all of you during my birthday, I sincerely appreciate you all.
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